Beautiful Life

Hey child up and go; A big world is out there waiting for us to live in every day. Outside you will find, there is love all around you; Takes you, makes you wanna' say; That it's a beautiful life and it's a beautiful world and it's a beautiful time to be here, to be here, to be here. -Fisher

Friday, March 4, 2011

This is what I know.

I have only known my son for 17 days.  Not long at all in the grand scheme of things.  But, in that little bit of time, this is what I've come to learn about Asher:

  • Asher is a Strong Willed Child.  As in, he should have been the cover model for the book! That iron will is going to take him places one day.
  • Asher has no boundaries.....yet.  He feels he has the freedom to do and touch whatever he wants.  He walks up to strangers and looks at their things.  He put the lid on some lady's cup in the park.  He took a pen out of a waitress's shirt.  He takes things off your plate, punches every button he sees and runs off to wherever he wants to go.

  • He has a smile that will charm the socks off you!  And, he knows it.
  • He is very, very, very smart!  And a wee bit manipulative.
  • He LOVES his daddy!
  • He tolerates me.

  • He loves toy cars, buses, airplanes and trucks.
  • He doesn't care about books.
  • He loves to be outside!
  • He loves to long as it isn't green....or vegetable.....or generally healthy for you.  Basically, he likes McDonald's nuggets and fries.  Oh, and pringles, oreos and chocolate. 
  • He does love peanut butter and eats it by the spoonful! And he loves yogurt.  At least those are healthy.  Just don't tell him that! 
  • He loves to take showers and baths.
  • He loves blowing bubbles and playing with playdough.

  • He is fiercely independent.  But, wants you nearby.
  • He is a good sleeper....but, he is still wrestling demons and he cries in his sleep most nights.
  • He is very attached to his Mandarin language and doesn't seem to want to learn English yet.  That's going to change in a few hours when he realizes there is no one to translate for him. 
  • He is nervous around other children.....for a few minutes.

  • He can throw an excellent tantrum when he doesn't get his way!
  • And there is something in his eyes that lets you know, he's had a rough 3 years 9 months....

This is what I know:

I can't promise that the rest of his life is going to be carefree or all happy days.  But, I can promise, that no matter what, we will be here for him.  Even when he thinks he doesn't want us.  Even when he says he doesn't need us.  Even when he's had a bad day, like today, when nothing seemed to make him happy and all he did was whine and throw fits.  At the end of the day, he is still my son and I hugged him and told him I loved him.  He wiped my kisses off!  Oh well.  Some days will be like that.


The Gulke Family said...

He is not rubbing them off, he is rubbing them in. That is what I tell Mia because they need to make sure it never goes away! Love you guys!

Chad and Kristy said...

Beautiful post and he has to be the most adorable Chinese boy EVER! I am so in love with his smile! I was a strong willed child so no worries it only took 22 years to get me straightened out:) You are a wonderful mother! Your in my prayers for the next 22 years give or take a few:) Congrats! You have a beautiful family.

Christine said...

Chelsea, I love this post. Your son sounds so much like our Alex. Hope you have a wonderful trip home. Blessings and congrats again.

Tracy said...

Wow you sure said alot there! Gotta get the towels and clean off the tears from my desk! What an amazing statement about your gorgeous little boy. Praying for a safe trip home and a beautiful transition into your new home and family.

schoolmom07 said...

That Chelsea is exactly what and all he will need to know! That you love him and he is YOURS!

Keep up the good works you have started in him. And yes...I can tell he has had a rough time in his short little life but that is taking a turn uphill!

Love you guys and I sure would love to hear from you...

Anonymous said...

When my boys were little and I use to give them kisses, they too would wipe them off, until I told them that they were rubbing them in instead.
I LOVE your blog
Jo from South Australia

Annie said...

Oh Chelsea, so muc of what you described is/was Lizzie. She was very clingy to us so did have boundaries but boy could she throw a good fit - anywhere - over anything! She also cried and wrestled with demons at night. That has almost completely gone away although she is still restless. She never ate anything except junk. She had that same look in her eyes and still gets it sometimes. Lizzie had a long way to go and has come a really long way. Hang in there and keep doing what you are doing. Love and consistency, love and consistency and loads of prayer!

Marti Pieper said...

Chelsea, This is what I know:

Asher is a beautiful child whom God considers His favorite. He has chosen just the right family to smooth off the rough edges, polish the dull places, and shape him into an instrument fit for a King.

Of course, you know these things, too. And you know a strong will can make a huge difference in the Kingdom when trained and directed according to our Father's will and way.

This, we know. This, you will remember on the days when that strong will threatens to break you. This, God sees as you embrace this new little son (literally and figuratively) and bring him into the heart of your precious family.

Sending my congratulations, love, and multiplied prayers. Yep, you're gonna need 'em. But then, you knew that, too.